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Maintaining Motivation

By Happiness & Joy, Health, Life, Thinking2 Comments

If you are like me you have set your Goals for 2009 (although you may have called them New Years Resolutions. I struggle with my motivation to keep them. One day I will have a high level of motivation and do really well and another day I will have a low level of motivation and not achieve any of them.

So here is some advice on how to maintain that motivation and keep on track with your goals or resolutions in 2009. (Simliar to the Relaxation post I did some time ago).

Family & Friends
Our family and friends have a massive influence on our life (just see People that inspire me). So when your motivation is low go to them for some support. They’ll give you plenty of positive encouragement that can give your motivation levels a real boost. Better yet if you can get them involved even better.

So for example if you are going to the gym as a new years resolution, why not encourage them to tag along? This will give you moral support everytime you go! Plus it will get you both healthier. Win, win situation.

Pro’s and Con’s
Pro’s are the benefits of you doing / not doing something. So for example the benefits for not smoking could include:

  • More money
  • Improved breathing & Overall feeling of well-being
  • Better sense of taste
  • Smell better
  • etc.
  • When motivation levels are low it can be good to list the Pro’s of doing or not doing something. Listing the Con’s also help. So using smoking as the example again, these could include:

  • Poor health – increased illnesses
  • Less money
  • Ruled by your addition
  • Smell & others reactions to it.
  • Smoking in the rain.
  • etc.
  • Hopefully you’ll have more Con’s than Pro’s but it is important that you focus on the Pro’s when your motivation levels are low. Keep the list of Pro’s and keep revisiting it to increase your motivation levels.

    Just for today…
    We tend to want the things in life we are trying to deny ourselfs. So a good motivation method I do is simply not to deny myself anything. I say: Just for today, I will eat healthier and take my break at work. It is a psychological trick I play on myself verbalised as a positive affirmation. I works really well for me.

    Recognise how far you have come.
    Many people only realise when they slip up or don’t achieve the end result. It is important if your motivation levels are low to recognise how far you have come and congratulate yourself! Well done on getting this far! Just a little further to go – you can do it

    Treat yourself
    If your having a particularly hard or difficult week in terms of your motivation levels, treat yourself. Buy yourself a gift to reward the hard work that you have done. This could be something inexpensive like a cake or something more expensive like a DVD. Go and buy it in the shops as then you have it there and then – an appreciation from yourself of the hard work. Buying online – you have to wait for delivery, and the gift to yourself doesn’t quite feel the same because of the delay. You need your reward there and then for the achievement you have succeded in completing. Repeat as necessary.

    Religious
    In this case, you have to be the judgement on how your own religion will enhance your motivation levels. For some prayers will increase their motivation. Whereas for me I would probably cast a spell for motivation.

    If you don’t do that well…
    Start again tomorrow. Noboday achieved all of their goals or new years resolutions on the first attempt. It’s important you just start again tomorrow! Don’t leave it and make excuses to yourself and delay starting again!

    Hope that’s useful my friends,

    Antony

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    Addiction to shower gells?

    By Happiness & Joy, Life, Love & Relationships, Thinking4 Comments

    “Let me look in that cubboard?” Curious David said. Using my body as a barrier: “You won’t understand.” Lovingly David moves me out of the way. He opens up the cubboard, looks at me and says: “Your ill.”

    This is how David discovered my 20+ shower gells all lined up. He doesn’t understand! So to help explain I told him this story:

    I was once in morrisons and saw a particular brand of shower gells that I love buy-one-get-one-free. So I couldn’t leave them there for that, could I?

    (I seem to have inherited my mums attraction for bargins.)

    So I bought 10 and got 10 free. David’s response to this was: “Your very ill.”

    I am unsure were this need to have plenty shower gells in stock. Perhaps someone once made a comment about my hygiene? (Doubt it as always have been very clean.) Or did I once run out? And my OCD (obsessive, compulsive disorder) set in – giving me a need to stock up and put them in an order. The latter is probably true. So Ok, I do have an addiction to shower gells, but perhaps there is worse addictions?

    And can I just say at this point: Supermarkets you don’t help! You always have offers on them and place them on the end of the isle – so I can’t even aviod them by not going down the isle.

    So what do you think? Am I “ill” as David suggests? Do I have an addiction? Leave a comment.

    Blog about random things soon.

    Antony

    (P.S Oh and in relation to David – I will let you know what’s going on, when I do.)

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    Things I want, but can’t afford – update

    By Amazon, Books & Authors, Happiness & Joy, Shopping, Technology, TV, Online Streaming & Films2 Comments

    Hello All,

    A few months ago I posted about Things I wan’t, but can’t afford, so here’s an update on the Wishlist.

    1. iPhone – This is still a want! I am aware of it’s limitations (see phones) but it has some very nifty features too. I plan to upgrade to one shortly when my contract comes up for renewal.
    Got? NO

    2. Alan Carr – Look Who it Is! – I bought this as a gift to myself before Christmas. I have read it from cover to cover. A worth while read.
    Got? YES

    New Item:
    2. Kylie Live ‘X’ 2008 – A DVD of Kylie’s tour I was lucky to see at the MEN (see Thanks to the attractive stranger & Photos – Kylie X2008)

    3. Dawn French – Dear Fatty – Mum got it me for Christmas, in the process of reading at present.
    Got? YES

    New Item:
    3. French and Saunders – Still Alive DVD The DVD of French and Saunders last tour, again which I was lucky enough to see it and have the tour from 2000, so I need this to add to my collection.

    4. A Robot Hover – To escape the domesticated task I had this on my orignal list. However as I currently house-share, I couldn’t justify buying it for one room. So it is still on the list for if/when I move.
    Got? NO

    5. Silverwind – Magic for lovers – A book David and I looked at whilst shopping one day. I still fancy it as a easy read.
    Got? NO

    6. John Barrowman – Another Side (CD) – Downloaded this. He has a fantastic voice, I’m a big fan!
    Got? YES

    New Item:
    Nintendo Wii Console – These looks like good fun and seen as this is a wish list, I’d love one of these!

    7. Robbie Williams – Live At The Albert DVD – I once saw this at a friend of mines apartment, still want it. He is fantastic in it and soo camp in parts.
    Got? NO

    8. Bruce – How to Create a Magical Home – It is a beautiful book I am currently reading. Would highly recommend to anyone who loves their home and is a pagan.
    Got? YES

    New Item:
    8. The Mummy: Tomb of the Dragon Emperor DVD – This had many bad reviews. But David and I watched it and I really enjoyed it. Defo, one I want to add to my DVD collection some day.

    9. Western Digital My Book 1TB – I still need one of these for my increasly cluttered computer. Bless it.
    Got? NO

    10. Ice CreamMaker – Nobody bought my justification for wanting this. I quote (from my post Things I wan’t, but can’t afford):

    My justification for this being on the list is that, if I bought it I could make healthy ice cream (yeah right! ha ha.).

    I suppose I would be able to make ice cream using sweetner rather than sugar. Now wouldn’t I be a healthy diabetic? It would be diabetic ice cream (that doesn’t have a laxitive effect).

    Got? NO

    11. The Wizard of Oz DVD Still need to purchase this before I can call myself a gay man (reminds me of that Catherine Tate line: “He’s a gay man now da”).
    Got? NO

    12. Will and Grace: Complete Series 5 DVD Boxset – My older brother usually buys me this for Christmas. But this year he bought me an Science Museum Retro Space Hopper and Science Museum – ATM Bank which are even better.
    Got? NO

    Aditions:
    13. John Barrowman – Anything Goes (Auto Biography) – Continuing my love for John.
    Got? NO

    14. John Barrowman – Music Music Music (CD) – His latest CD.
    Got? NO

    So there it is, your update! It’s nice to make a list of material things you want and tick them off as you get them.

    What do you have on your Things you want, but can’t afford list? Leave comments below.

    Write soon,

    Antony

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    Goals for 2009

    By Adventures, Amazon, Friends & Family, Happiness & Joy, Health, Life, Money / Finances, ThinkingNo Comments

    We all have goals don’t we?

    Well here’s mine, for 2009 (owe it rhymes):

  • Health – To Improve my blood sugar control, eat better & be generally healthy.
  • Financial – To pay off debts (one from last year I didn’t actually manage to do).
  • Work – To complete work-related qualification & continue my professional development.
  • Home – To put together a dream home book and start working towards it
  • Adventures – To go to Italy for two weeks and explore the culture, places and people that inhabit this land.
  • Creative – To do some more candle making (see A Visit to Simon’s) and some creative writing.
  • Be There – To continue to be there for family & friends who I am very lucky to have.

    Amazon have got this interesting site for New Years Resolutions. Have a look it has show good products on offer.

    With My Love to All,

    Antony

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