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The Love of DOLLY

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I’ve always thought Dolly Parton was an incredible woman. A fantastic singer, song writer, business woman and philanthropist.

Dolly had a zest for life, always being warm, bubbly and fun.

I was saddened to learn of her death, but equally thankful for the fact she lived.

Dolly accepted LGBT people and spoke positively about the LGBT community, doing so before many other people with her sort of public platform.

But Dolly became an icon to me, when she famously said:

If I hadn’t been a woman, I’d have been a Drag Queen! – Dolly Parton

In this quote, Dolly wasn’t just saying she liked and appreciated LGBT people. Dolly was also saying, that if she’d a choice, she would have proudly been part of the community.

I knew Dolly was well-liked, but what I didn’t realise, is that for many people, Dolly was and is loved by them. Since the announcement of Dolly’s death, the number of visitors to my blog post Some Facts You May Not Know About Dolly Parton has exploded.

I once watched a TV interview with Dolly, where she told an interviewer a funny story. I’m going to share this story here, told by Dolly, in her own words.

The Time Dolly Lost A Dolly Parton Look Alike Contest

Once I dressed as a Dolly, an over exaggerated Dolly in LA. I was out there working and there’s this gay bar down on Santa Monica, close to my house and they where having a Dolly Parton look alike contest.

So me and a bunch of friends decided we’d go down there, because it would be fun, because we were all dressed up and me being Dolly.

So they had these big Drag Queens, I mean, they looked great too, prettier than I could ever dream of being, but anyway, when walked across the stage, if they applauded, you won the contest by the amount of applause, I guess you got free drinks or something.

So all these beautiful guys are walking across – these Dollys – all this tall – and here I come walking across the stage and I got the least applause of anybody.


So I’ve always said: “It’s terrible when you lose a Dolly Parton look alike contest.” – Dolly Parton

I feel privileged to have shared some of my time on this planet with this wonderful woman.

Write soon,

Antony

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All About Stories: What, How, Why, Power, Where, Who, Jobs, My Stories & Useful Websites

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I was very young when I was introduced to stories.

My mum would read me stories out of books at bedtime. Books like The Magic Faraway Tree & The Wishing-Chair Again.

I have fond memories of sitting on my grandma’s lap, her telling me stories about Freddie the Frog. She would do the different voices of the characters and even sound effects. I remember my grandma bouncing me up and down on her knees often, making the noise of an ambulance.

As I grew, so did my experience of stories. I was shown or told many different stories, in many different ways, about many different things, by many different people. Some stories would be fiction, whereas others would be non-fiction.

As an adult, I’ve gone to to present some of my own stories or re-tell stories I know to others. I’ve done this through my books, blog posts, articles and short stories.

Yet, I’ve never really considered, explored or examined stories as a concept. Which is why I’ve written this post.

What Are Stories?

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, a story (singular of stories) is:

Story word definition from Cambridge Dictionary.

How Are Stories Presented?

Stories can be shown, told or presented to others in a variety of different ways including:

  • Oral/verbal telling – either live or pre-recorded. This was the first way of sharing stories and came when humans first developed language, well before the written word.
  • Through works of art – paintings, tapestries, sculptures, etc.
  • Written words – Both in print and electronic. This can be books, pamphlets, ebooks, websites, emails, messages, etc.
  • Images – photography or other still images.
  • GIFs – Short animated files that have a repeating movement, sound or both.
  • Songs/music/sound. This could include songs with words, music (with or without words) and sounds or sound effects.
  • Body movements/gestures/language. Such as dance routines or playing charades.
  • Video – TV, films, etc.
  • Rituals, which may involve the making and consumption of food.
  • Plays/other performances – where the story might be scripted or improvised.
  • 3D cinema experiences.
  • Some theme park rides.
  • Through sense of smell.
  • Computer games – many have stories that the player experiences as they play the different levels/missions within the game.

Why Stories?

Stories can have many purposes and many potential benefits including:

  • Knowledge – helps people to remember information in a meaningful way. This is required for them to share this information with others.
  • Can be used to teach others.
  • Helps to create connection between people.
  • Helps to create empathy between people.
  • Helps people to consider new ideas.
  • Helps people to experience new or different emotions.
  • Helps people to express their thoughts, ideas and emotions to others.
  • Entertains people.
  • Helps develop imagination/imaginative play and can stimulate creativity.
  • Develops problem solving skills.
  • Helps people remember historic events, both good and bad, and the lessons from these events.
  • Can help people to know their own story and share it with others.
  • A way of sharing beliefs, values and cultural practices.
  • Helps people to explore a range of concepts such as morals, values, beliefs, identify, etc.
  • Can be used to process and heal from traumatic experiences.
  • A way of safely sharing life experiences, without the other people having to directly experience the event(s) for themselves.
  • A way to test someone’s cognitive functioning.
  • Can improve vocabulary, concentration and listening.
  • Can be used to influence others.
  • Can be used to earn money for people to live on.
  • Can provide a world for people to escape to when they have a difficult reality. Other words for this could be distraction or disassociation.
  • Can help people feel less alone and isolated.
  • Can give people hope for their future.
  • Can help to reduce anxiety, stress and tension.
  • Can improve relationships within communities.
  • Can improve confidence and self-esteem.

The Power of Stories

Stories can have great power, sometimes being transformational to those that experience them. But the impact of stories varies greatly depending on a wide range of factors. This makes it practically impossible for storytellers to predict who, how or even if their story will have any impact on others.

Let me give you a few examples of stories and how they have impacted me to demonstrate what I mean:

Impact on Me

Made me admire Ruth Cocker Burks greatly. Made my share her story on my blog. Made me buy her book.

Made me admire Ida & Louise Cook greatly. Made me feel better about the world during World War 2. That there were some good people out there and that the history wasn’t just genocide/death.

Made me feel deeply sad for Matthew Shepard, his mother and his family. Made me imagine what his torture must have been like. Reminded me, that as a gay man, I have to be hypervigilant for danger. The world is not always a safe place for gay people. Told Matthew’s story on my blog, at a time when America seems to be going backwards.

Gave me hope that there are some really smart people out there who are motivated by the greater good/good for humanity rather than money and greed. This story gives me hope that diseases that are currently un-curable, might one day be cured.

Where Are Stories Shared?

As well as stories being presented in different ways, they can also be shared in different places, including:

  • Traditional media – newspapers, TV, radio.
  • Social media – all platforms.
  • On messaging apps or via telephone.
  • On other apps, such as ones for audiobooks.
  • Websites – including Amazon, YouTube, Netflix, etc.
  • At specific events, both work-related and social.
  • In any community settings where two or more people can gather – coffee shops, supermarkets, libraries, community centres, pubs, etc.
  • Within workplaces.
  • Cinemas.
  • At theatres, clubs and stadiums.
  • At gyms, sport/leisure centres.
  • On public transport.
  • In a car.
  • Practically any where and at any time, depending on how the story is being presented.

Who Can Present Stories?

Technically anyone can present stories to others. Providing that the others want to experience the story and are able to access it in the way that it is being presented.

However, we do tend to prefer stories from people and organisations that we feel we can trust.

When a storyteller wants to share a story with you, useful questions to ask yourself are:

  1. What is the storytellers agenda?
  2. Are they a biased?
  3. How much do I trust them?
  4. What are their credentials? (i.e. qualifications and experience related to the story).
  5. If the story is non-fiction, will they be giving you the correct facts/information?
  6. What is my past experience with this storyteller?
  7. What is your gut feeling telling you about the storyteller and the story they are presenting?

Storytelling Jobs

There are who industries set up around storytelling, think for example: any company providing the news, any company that does public relations, marketing or advertising.

But some more interesting storytelling jobs include: TV/Film Director, Comedian, Writer/Author and Actor/Actress.

Some of My Stories

Here are just a few of my stories:

Finding Your Happiness is my story of how I discovered the knowledge, skills and practices to be happier. How I became the happiest that I have ever been.

I published this book to share the knowledge, skills and practices, because I believe that everybody deserves to be happy.

As an experienced Registered Nurse, I am aware of the many Ways The Human Body Can Go Wrong. So I’ve written this book to share stories with Doctors, medical students, Nurses and Student Nurses about how the human body xan go wrong and what treatments are available.

As a gay man, I wanted to share a list of Influential UK Gay Men, which I did in this FREE article, because have role models with influence really counts.

Useful Websites

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Antony

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Parts of the ‘Self’ – A Short Extract From FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS

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Here is a small extract from my book FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS:

A core aspect to finding your happiness is to understand who you are, what drives you and most importantly: What will make you happy. These are unique to the individual, just like your fingerprints.

Parts of the ‘Self’

Everyone has different parts of the ‘Self’ that make up the whole of who they are. The different parts of your Self include:

★ The Physical Self – your body.
★ The Mental Self – your thoughts.
★ The Emotional Self – your emotions.
★ The Spiritual Self – your soul.

All these parts contribute to who you are and are interconnected.

All of these parts contribute to your behaviour – what you say and do.

Your spiritual self or soul is perhaps the most mysterious of all the parts. We know very little about souls. What is their purpose? How do they operate? The truth is that nobody can answer these questions with absolute certainty.

There are plenty of theories about souls. Just look at the many religious and spiritual systems in the world today. I personally believe that any work we do to understand our spiritual self, helps us to more deeply understand the universe and how everything is interconnected.

The interaction between these different parts of the Self, the influence they have on one another and our behaviour is very complex and constantly changing.

But a couple of example scenarios here will help you to understand that the different parts of your Self can and do influence one another:

Example Scenario 1: Anxiety

A really good example of the interaction between the different parts of the Self in action, is the state of anxiety. Anxiety starts through a trigger. A trigger is an event or experience that causes something to happen.

Imagine you have been triggered. In your mind anxious thoughts start to form. Then you start to feel the emotion of fear. Your physical self responds to these thoughts and emotions. Your heart beats faster, you become more alert and your appetite decreases.

In the scenario above, your thoughts influenced your emotional state. Then your physical body responded to both your thoughts and your emotional state.

It is important to know that just because you’re currently focused on one part of your Self, it doesn’t mean that the other parts are inactive.

Let’s look at another example scenario to illustrate my point:

Example Scenario 2: Exercise

Imagine you have gone for a run. Your physical self is firing on all cylinders – your heart beats fast, your lungs inhale oxygen rapidly and your muscles propel you forwards. But as you run, the other parts of your Self are not inactive.

In your mind, you may be thinking about events earlier in your day. You may think about something that triggers your emotions. These thoughts or emotions may cause you to run faster, run slower or stop running altogether.

To summarise, all parts of your Self (Physical, Mental, Emotional & Spiritual) interact with one another. They can influence one another. This in turn can influence your behaviour – what you say, do and omit to do.

In terms of happiness, it is really important to consider each part of your Self. Happiness can only be achieved when all parts of you are working in tandem with one another. All parts of your Self must be in a state of unity.

You can read more in my book FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS, which is available to buy on Amazon here.

Blog soon,

Antony

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The BIG 4-0

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Last week was my 40th birthday. Just before my birthday, I’d had some good news about my vasculitis. My birthday celebrations were low-key this year, mum, papa and I went out for a meal, followed by unicorn cake.

I’m going to be honest, I never thought I’d make it to the BIG 4-0. But I am pleased that I have. I am as healthy as I can be (given my type 1 diabetes and vasculitis) and the happiest I have ever been.

In April (2026) I published my latest book FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS, which covers:

  • My Journey to Happiness.
  • The Secret to Happiness.
  • Understanding You.
  • Where You Are Right Now.
  • Planning For Happiness.
  • Taking Action For Happiness.
  • Maintaining Happiness.
  • Dealing with Challenges to Happiness.
  • Your Happy Life.

My hope is that FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS leads readers to transform their lives, giving readers the knowledge and skills to lead a life filled with happiness and joy. The 167 page, full-colour book will take an average reader 5.5-7.5 hours to read.

Write soon,

Antony

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