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All About Stories: What, How, Why, Power, Where, Who, Jobs, My Stories & Useful Websites

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I was very young when I was introduced to stories.

My mum would read me stories out of books at bedtime. Books like The Magic Faraway Tree & The Wishing-Chair Again.

I have fond memories of sitting on my grandma’s lap, her telling me stories about Freddie the Frog. She would do the different voices of the characters and even sound effects. I remember my grandma bouncing me up and down on her knees often, making the noise of an ambulance.

As I grew, so did my experience of stories. I was shown or told many different stories, in many different ways, about many different things, by many different people. Some stories would be fiction, whereas others would be non-fiction.

As an adult, I’ve gone to to present some of my own stories or re-tell stories I know to others. I’ve done this through my books, blog posts, articles and short stories.

Yet, I’ve never really considered, explored or examined stories as a concept. Which is why I’ve written this post.

What Are Stories?

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, a story (singular of stories) is:

Story word definition from Cambridge Dictionary.

How Are Stories Presented?

Stories can be shown, told or presented to others in a variety of different ways including:

  • Oral/verbal telling – either live or pre-recorded. This was the first way of sharing stories and came when humans first developed language, well before the written word.
  • Through works of art – paintings, tapestries, sculptures, etc.
  • Written words – Both in print and electronic. This can be books, pamphlets, ebooks, websites, emails, messages, etc.
  • Images – photography or other still images.
  • GIFs – Short animated files that have a repeating movement, sound or both.
  • Songs/music/sound. This could include songs with words, music (with or without words) and sounds or sound effects.
  • Body movements/gestures/language. Such as dance routines or playing charades.
  • Video – TV, films, etc.
  • Rituals, which may involve the making and consumption of food.
  • Plays/other performances – where the story might be scripted or improvised.
  • 3D cinema experiences.
  • Some theme park rides.
  • Through sense of smell.
  • Computer games – many have stories that the player experiences as they play the different levels/missions within the game.

Why Stories?

Stories can have many purposes and many potential benefits including:

  • Knowledge – helps people to remember information in a meaningful way. This is required for them to share this information with others.
  • Can be used to teach others.
  • Helps to create connection between people.
  • Helps to create empathy between people.
  • Helps people to consider new ideas.
  • Helps people to experience new or different emotions.
  • Helps people to express their thoughts, ideas and emotions to others.
  • Entertains people.
  • Helps develop imagination/imaginative play and can stimulate creativity.
  • Develops problem solving skills.
  • Helps people remember historic events, both good and bad, and the lessons from these events.
  • Can help people to know their own story and share it with others.
  • A way of sharing beliefs, values and cultural practices.
  • Helps people to explore a range of concepts such as morals, values, beliefs, identify, etc.
  • Can be used to process and heal from traumatic experiences.
  • A way of safely sharing life experiences, without the other people having to directly experience the event(s) for themselves.
  • A way to test someone’s cognitive functioning.
  • Can improve vocabulary, concentration and listening.
  • Can be used to influence others.
  • Can be used to earn money for people to live on.
  • Can provide a world for people to escape to when they have a difficult reality. Other words for this could be distraction or disassociation.
  • Can help people feel less alone and isolated.
  • Can give people hope for their future.
  • Can help to reduce anxiety, stress and tension.
  • Can improve relationships within communities.
  • Can improve confidence and self-esteem.

The Power of Stories

Stories can have great power, sometimes being transformational to those that experience them. But the impact of stories varies greatly depending on a wide range of factors. This makes it practically impossible for storytellers to predict who, how or even if their story will have any impact on others.

Let me give you a few examples of stories and how they have impacted me to demonstrate what I mean:

Impact on Me

Made me admire Ruth Cocker Burks greatly. Made my share her story on my blog. Made me buy her book.

Made me admire Ida & Louise Cook greatly. Made me feel better about the world during World War 2. That there were some good people out there and that the history wasn’t just genocide/death.

Made me feel deeply sad for Matthew Shepard, his mother and his family. Made me imagine what his torture must have been like. Reminded me, that as a gay man, I have to be hypervigilant for danger. The world is not always a safe place for gay people. Told Matthew’s story on my blog, at a time when America seems to be going backwards.

Gave me hope that there are some really smart people out there who are motivated by the greater good/good for humanity rather than money and greed. This story gives me hope that diseases that are currently un-curable, might one day be cured.

Where Are Stories Shared?

As well as stories being presented in different ways, they can also be shared in different places, including:

  • Traditional media – newspapers, TV, radio.
  • Social media – all platforms.
  • On messaging apps or via telephone.
  • On other apps, such as ones for audiobooks.
  • Websites – including Amazon, YouTube, Netflix, etc.
  • At specific events, both work-related and social.
  • In any community settings where two or more people can gather – coffee shops, supermarkets, libraries, community centres, pubs, etc.
  • Within workplaces.
  • Cinemas.
  • At theatres, clubs and stadiums.
  • At gyms, sport/leisure centres.
  • On public transport.
  • In a car.
  • Practically any where and at any time, depending on how the story is being presented.

Who Can Present Stories?

Technically anyone can present stories to others. Providing that the others want to experience the story and are able to access it in the way that it is being presented.

However, we do tend to prefer stories from people and organisations that we feel we can trust.

When a storyteller wants to share a story with you, useful questions to ask yourself are:

  1. What is the storytellers agenda?
  2. Are they a biased?
  3. How much do I trust them?
  4. What are their credentials? (i.e. qualifications and experience related to the story).
  5. If the story is non-fiction, will they be giving you the correct facts/information?
  6. What is my past experience with this storyteller?
  7. What is your gut feeling telling you about the storyteller and the story they are presenting?

Storytelling Jobs

There are who industries set up around storytelling, think for example: any company providing the news, any company that does public relations, marketing or advertising.

But some more interesting storytelling jobs include: TV/Film Director, Comedian, Writer/Author and Actor/Actress.

Some of My Stories

Here are just a few of my stories:

Finding Your Happiness is my story of how I discovered the knowledge, skills and practices to be happier. How I became the happiest that I have ever been.

I published this book to share the knowledge, skills and practices, because I believe that everybody deserves to be happy.

As an experienced Registered Nurse, I am aware of the many Ways The Human Body Can Go Wrong. So I’ve written this book to share stories with Doctors, medical students, Nurses and Student Nurses about how the human body xan go wrong and what treatments are available.

As a gay man, I wanted to share a list of Influential UK Gay Men, which I did in this FREE article, because have role models with influence really counts.

Useful Websites

Write soon,

Antony

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Parts of the ‘Self’ – A Short Extract From FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS

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Here is a small extract from my book FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS:

A core aspect to finding your happiness is to understand who you are, what drives you and most importantly: What will make you happy. These are unique to the individual, just like your fingerprints.

Parts of the ‘Self’

Everyone has different parts of the ‘Self’ that make up the whole of who they are. The different parts of your Self include:

★ The Physical Self – your body.
★ The Mental Self – your thoughts.
★ The Emotional Self – your emotions.
★ The Spiritual Self – your soul.

All these parts contribute to who you are and are interconnected.

All of these parts contribute to your behaviour – what you say and do.

Your spiritual self or soul is perhaps the most mysterious of all the parts. We know very little about souls. What is their purpose? How do they operate? The truth is that nobody can answer these questions with absolute certainty.

There are plenty of theories about souls. Just look at the many religious and spiritual systems in the world today. I personally believe that any work we do to understand our spiritual self, helps us to more deeply understand the universe and how everything is interconnected.

The interaction between these different parts of the Self, the influence they have on one another and our behaviour is very complex and constantly changing.

But a couple of example scenarios here will help you to understand that the different parts of your Self can and do influence one another:

Example Scenario 1: Anxiety

A really good example of the interaction between the different parts of the Self in action, is the state of anxiety. Anxiety starts through a trigger. A trigger is an event or experience that causes something to happen.

Imagine you have been triggered. In your mind anxious thoughts start to form. Then you start to feel the emotion of fear. Your physical self responds to these thoughts and emotions. Your heart beats faster, you become more alert and your appetite decreases.

In the scenario above, your thoughts influenced your emotional state. Then your physical body responded to both your thoughts and your emotional state.

It is important to know that just because you’re currently focused on one part of your Self, it doesn’t mean that the other parts are inactive.

Let’s look at another example scenario to illustrate my point:

Example Scenario 2: Exercise

Imagine you have gone for a run. Your physical self is firing on all cylinders – your heart beats fast, your lungs inhale oxygen rapidly and your muscles propel you forwards. But as you run, the other parts of your Self are not inactive.

In your mind, you may be thinking about events earlier in your day. You may think about something that triggers your emotions. These thoughts or emotions may cause you to run faster, run slower or stop running altogether.

To summarise, all parts of your Self (Physical, Mental, Emotional & Spiritual) interact with one another. They can influence one another. This in turn can influence your behaviour – what you say, do and omit to do.

In terms of happiness, it is really important to consider each part of your Self. Happiness can only be achieved when all parts of you are working in tandem with one another. All parts of your Self must be in a state of unity.

You can read more in my book FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS, which is available to buy on Amazon here.

Blog soon,

Antony

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The BIG 4-0

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Last week was my 40th birthday. Just before my birthday, I’d had some good news about my vasculitis. My birthday celebrations were low-key this year, mum, papa and I went out for a meal, followed by unicorn cake.

I’m going to be honest, I never thought I’d make it to the BIG 4-0. But I am pleased that I have. I am as healthy as I can be (given my type 1 diabetes and vasculitis) and the happiest I have ever been.

In April (2026) I published my latest book FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS, which covers:

  • My Journey to Happiness.
  • The Secret to Happiness.
  • Understanding You.
  • Where You Are Right Now.
  • Planning For Happiness.
  • Taking Action For Happiness.
  • Maintaining Happiness.
  • Dealing with Challenges to Happiness.
  • Your Happy Life.

My hope is that FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS leads readers to transform their lives, giving readers the knowledge and skills to lead a life filled with happiness and joy. The 167 page, full-colour book will take an average reader 5.5-7.5 hours to read.

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Antony

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Two Change Theories – The Cycle of Change by Prochaska and DiClemente & The Three Stages of Change by Lewin

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Everyone and everything changes. As the Greek Philosopher, Heraclitus of Ephesus once said:

Change is the only constant in life.

Understanding how change happens is key to changing any of your thought patterns, emotions or behaviours. It is also key to changing the thought patterns, emotions or behaviours of others.

Here I present two of my favourite change theories:

The Cycle of Change by Prochaska and DiClemente

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The Cycle of Change was developed by Prochaska and DiClemente in the 1980s looking at how smokers in America stopped smoking.

Prochaska and DiClemente identified that change happens in distinct stages and that these stages can be considered a cycle. They created a diagram to demonstrate this cycle, which I have recreated on the left.

Here is a more information about each stage:

1. Precontemplation
Precontemplation is the first stage in the Cycle of Change. If you are in this stage of change you don’t have any desire or thoughts around changing any of your thought or behavioural patterns.

2. Contemplation
In the contemplation stage you will be thinking about changing either a single thought or behavioural pattern or any number of them. You will be considering the good and bad aspects of the patterns. You will be thinking about how you could change the patterns and the impact you expect changes would have on you and others.

By the time you reach the end of the contemplation stage, you have made the decision to either change or not.

If you have decided to change, you progress to the next stage.

If you have decided not to change your behaviour then you go back to the precontemplative stage.

Some people can get stuck in the contemplation stage for a long time. Always try to be aware of which stage of change you are in and how long you have been there. This will prevent you from getting stuck in any stage of the change process for a prolonged period of time.

3. Preparation
The preparation stage is all about planning to make the change to your thought or behavioural patterns. You will begin to take some actions for the change you want, such as setting goals, making a plan, etc.

For example, say you wanted to change the amount of physical activity you undertake, by increasing it. In this stage you may:

  • Join a gym.
  • Join a local sports club.
  • Plan a new routine which will give you more time for physical activity.
  • Recruit a friend who will also take part in some or all of your physical activities.

4. Action
The action stage is where you stop the old patterns of thoughts or behaviours and start the new patterns. This stage of change is hard and initially takes a lot of conscious effort, energy and motivation.

However with repetition and the passage of time, the new patterns of thoughts or behaviours become easier, take less conscious effort, energy and motivation to complete.

5. Maintenance
In the maintenance stage, you maintain the new patterns of thoughts or behaviours by regular repetition. The aim is to make the new patterns become your new way of being and functioning.

Prochaska and DiClemente theorised that the maintenance stage takes 3-6 months to complete. After this time, what was once a change is the new normal for you.

Neuroscience suggests that it takes 3-6 months for neurons (brain cells) to reorganise and become fully established to support a new thought or behavioural pattern. This neuroscience idea is called Neuroplasticity. This means that neuroscience supports Prochaska and DiClemente’s theory that it takes 3-6 months for you to change thought or behavioural patterns.

Neuroscientists have discovered evidence to suggest that Neuroplasticity occurs throughout a person’s life. This means that no matter your stage of life or age, you can make changes to your thought or behavioural patterns at any time.

6. Lapse or Relapse
Prochaska and DiClemente described going back to old thoughts or behavioural patterns as an essential part of the process of how change happens.

They described a lapse as an event of going back to old thoughts or behavioural patterns for a short time, recognising that you have done this and still having a desire to change to the new patterns. In a lapse, you go back to the new thought or behavioural quickly.

Lapses are part of the process of change. A lapse can be a great learning opportunity for you. By reflecting on a lapse you can learn what triggered you to revert back to your old patterns and prevent it from happening again in the future. This can lead to your next attempt at change being more or completely successful.

Prochaska and DiClemente described a relapse as going back to the old thought or behavioural pattern in the longer term. The danger with a relapse is that you could lose your desire, energy or motivation for change and go back to the pre-contemplation stage of the cycle.

I give much more information, practical advice and tips for change in my book FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS:

The Three Stages of Change by Lewin

The Three Stages of Change by Lewin was developed in the 1940s. His theory consists of three distinct stages:

Both of these theories can help you change your thinking or behavioural patterns.

Write soon,

Antony

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