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Recently, in day to day life, I’ve come into contact with a number of people that seem to feel entitled to preferential treatment or are always the victim. I always try to be compassionate and kind to everyone I meet, no matter how people treat me. I often remind myself: Antony, you don’t know what this person is going through, or what challenges they are facing at this moment.

The Definitions of Entitled & Victim

To better explain the people I’m writing about and how these people think, feel and behave (what they say and do), here are the definitions of entitled and victim:

Definition: entitled

– assuming or acting as though one has an innate right or claim to wealth, success, recognition, etc..

(From: Dictionary.com, last accessed: 02/11/26.)

Definition: victim

– one that is subjected to oppression, hardship, or mistreatment

(From: Merriam-Webster, last accessed: 02/11/26.)

Compassionate & Kind

My approach with all people is to be compassionate and kind. But I’ve noticed that people that act entitled or are always victims don’t mimic my approach. Instead their sense of entitlement behaviours, or their perceived victimhood gets worse. Sometimes to the point where they can get rude, disrespectful or even go on a verbal rant or attack (often without a justifiable cause).

It feels like my compassion and kindness are mistaken for weakness. It feels like these people see an opportunity to socially misbehave and do so. I’ve realised that by being polite, compassionate and kind, it enables some people to behave in an entitled way or create new situations where they can become the victim.

I’ve made the important decision to change my approach with people that are acting entitled or always the victim.

Minimise Contact/Interactions, Match Their Attitude & Hold Them to Account

My new approach has three steps:

1. Minimise Contact/Interactions – To reduce the opportunities they have to misbehave socially. Often they come across as selfish and unable to consider anyone else’s point of view.
2. Match Their Attitude – How they treat me, will now be how they get treated. There is no excuse for rudeness or for them to be disrespectful. They will now get off me: a taste of their own medicine.
3. Hold Them to Account – People that are entitled or always the victims often manipulate, change or lie about events, so that their narrative reinforces their sense of entitlement or victimhood status. On more than one occasion, I have fallen foul of this. So in future, I will hold these people to account and call them out on their misrepresentations of, changes to, or lies about events that involve me.

Are You Acting Entitled or Always The Victim?

A post like can trigger some people to question whether they act entitled or are always the victim. For this reason, I want to point out here, that if you have the self-awareness to question your thoughts, feelings or behaviours, you are highly unlikely to be displaying these behaviours.

If You Do Act Entitled or are Always The Victim

If you do act entitled or are always the victim, I would recommend therapy to explore why and look at changing your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

I would also recommend reading my books: Mental Health Wisdom and Finding Your Happiness. Acting entitled or always being the victim can lead to mental illnesses and will definitely not lead you being very happy.

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Take Care,

Antony