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The Power of the Subconscious Mind

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The power of the subconscious mind should never be underestimated. The subconscious mind is responsible for automatic responses to stimuli including: physiological states/changes, storing & processing of experiences/memories, prompting thoughts into the conscious mind, determining emotional responses and morals/beliefs. The subconscious mind can influence our behaviour without our conscious mind being aware of it.

Some good examples of the subconscious mind in action are any behaviour that we do without consciously thinking about it (such as breathing or holding your breath, your heart beating, walking, body language) and learned behaviours (such as navigating a route, riding a bike, driving a car).

The role of your subconscious mind is to keep you safe and to make life a little easier for you. But unlike your conscious mind it isn’t driven by thoughts and logic, instead it is driven by emotions and intuition.

Think of the two parts of your mind as being like an iceberg. Your conscious mind being above the water level, whereas your subconscious mind is the much larger part of the iceberg hidden below the water.

If your subconscious mind is troubled or disturbed, you are likely to experience some of the following symptoms:

  • Difficulty sleeping – you may struggle getting to sleep or staying a sleep. You might have disturbing dreams or even night terrors. Waking up more tired than when you went to bed.
  • A lack of energy – including feeling exhausted. This in turn will impact on your motivation levels, as energy and motivation are intricately linked.
  • Muscle tension – throughout your body. You may experience unexplained aches and pains.
  • Difficulty relaxing and a lack of enjoyment in activities you used to find pleasurable.
  • Increased anxiety levels – along with all the symptoms that anxiety brings with it.
  • A reduced ability to concentrate, including difficulties in making both small and large decisions.
  • Feeling overwhelmed.
  • Becoming easily irritated or annoyed.

So how do you heal a troubled or disturbed mind? It’s a difficult one. It’s not easy. It takes work.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t operate the way your conscious mind does. Your conscious mind is made up of thoughts. You can reason and use logic with it.

Your subconscious mind on the other hand, it communicates in emotions, symbolism in dreams and random and often irrational thoughts. But there are things you can do to help your subconscious mind heal from being troubled, disturbed or traumatised. They include:

  1. Create a safe and positive environment – Your subconscious mind craves safety and a sense of security. So having an environment where you feel safe and positive is essential.
  2. Explore your emotions, lean into all of them and fully experience them. No more suppressing or ignoring hoe you feel. Process your emotions logically and thank your subconscious for sharing information through emotions.
  3. Pay close attention to you conscious thoughts. Look out for rumination, a critical inner voice and repetitive thoughts of self-doubt.
  4. Keep a journal. Express your thoughts and feelings on paper (or computer). Doing this allows your brain to properly process, rather than pushing thoughts and feelings down into the subconscious.
  5. Meditate. Meditation builds self-awareness and quietens your mind so you can better hear the messages from your subconscious.
  6. Practice self-care. Try to eat well, take regular exercise and have a good sleep routine. These actions not only help you physically but are an important signals to your subconscious. By practising self-care you are giving/repeating a message to your subconscious: That you matter enough to be kept safe and taken care of.
  7. Create new experiences – Focus on activities that bring you pleasure, enjoyment and happiness.
  8. Stop harmful behaviours – If you use alcohol, substances, disordered eating, excessive work or other behaviours that you are harming you whether that be physically, mentally or emotionally try to stop these. You may need professional help and it may take time. But do it. It is worth it, I promise.
  9. Evaluate your relationships. Make sure all your relationships are healthy and not in anyway abusive or neglectful. If you are in a toxic relationship, run, get out. You deserve to have relationships that are healthy, loving, kind and respectful.
  10. Get professional support. Get counselling or other talking therapies. The process of counselling (or other talking therapies) can help you to identify how you can change your life to make you healthier and happier. I will warn you that counselling or other talking therapies require active participation, reflection and a desire to deal with problems and make changes.
  11. Check in with how you are feeling regularly. Set a time each day to check in with how you feel. Try to choose a time when you are not busy – like first thing in the morning, lunchtime or before bed.
  12. Deal with any past traumatic experiences – This may include acknowledging what trauma you’ve experienced, dealing with difficult emotions and learning to forgive and let go.

Before I finish, I will say just one more thing: That healing the subconscious takes time. Don’t expect instant results. Just keep working on it and keep focused. Always ask yourself: Will my thinking/behaviour lead to a happier and healthier me? If the answer isn’t an instant yes, then change your thoughts or behaviour until the answer is a distinctive and strong YES!

Write soon,

Antony

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Book Review: Sometime Yesterday by Yvonne Heidt

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Publishers Group UK sent me a copy of Sometime Yesterday the first novel from Yvonne Heidt. Sometime Yesterday is a paranormal fiction story; it’s the first book in this genre I’ve read and I throughly enjoyed it. I enjoyed it so much that when my unread book pile lessens, I will be seeking out more paranormal fiction books.

In Sometime Yesterday Natalie is starting her life again after recently getting divorced from Jason. Jason had been cheating on her and had left her for Tracy who he’s recently married. Natalie was never truly happy with Jason; she used to dread when he gave her that look, but she was comfortable. It’s all change for Natalie but at least she’s got her work, her painting as an artist which is about the only thing in her life that remains constant.

Natalie moves into a new house she’s bought and worries about being lonely; but she needn’t of worried as she quickly discovers her house in haunted. The ghosts of Sarah & Beth a secret lesbian couple and Richard a sinister dark masculine figure all of whom died over a hundred years ago are for some reason they are still present in the house. Natalie begins to experience strange happenings in the house when she’s awake and even stranger dreams when she’s asleep.

Van (Vanessa) is a lesbian landscaper who hasn’t had a relationship since the death of Cara her longterm girlfriend some time ago. Van has built an emotional wall around herself; but does satisfy the loneliness she feels by taking various women home with her after a few drinks. Van approaches Natalie knowing that her house has been empty for so long that the garden will be badly in need of landscaping.

As soon as Natalie and Van meet they are attracted to one another. Van makes her offer to landscape the garden and Natalie accepts. As Natalie grapples with her attraction to Van and is discovering that she has oppressed her lesbianism up until this point in her life; she has a dream that she is Beth and is having sex with Sarah. I understand why Heidt had this sex scene dream between Natalie and the ghost Sarah, but I don’t think it needed it.

Natalie & Van begin to date spending time together whilst the ghosts up their ante. Natalie doesn’t mind Sarah & Beth but Richard becomes increasingly sinister and violent scaring her. Natalie’s fabulous mother who is a psychic tells Natalie that she must unravel the mystery as to why they haven’t moved on, which she attempts to do. Natalie thinks she’s experiencing the haunted happenings and traumatic dreams because Sarah & Beth were lesbian and she is, but later on in the book she discovers a much deeper connection. Natalie & Van continue to get closer, having more than one intimate sexual scene together and realise that the love one another.

In the final few chapters of Sometime Yesterday, Heidt gives you a sense of real danger as Richard seemingly comes to life; his dark secrets are exposed and he intends to deal with Natalie & Van for what he perceives as another betrayal in his house.

The plot is excellent with good use of description throughout. The story is well paced allowing for peaks of paranormal action, character development and unravelling of the mystery. The mystery encourages the reader to read on; I found myself constantly trying to guess the mystery and what would happen next. I could have easily read this book in one sitting, and probably would have done had I not been so busy recently. It has all the components of a good story: love interest, mystery, fear, action, drama and a happy ending that ties up all the loose ends.

Yvonne Heidt has a very engaging writers voice, as well as being an obviously talented writer. After reading Sometime Yesterday I have become an instant fan of hers which I’ve never said on any review before. I have recently read on her website that she’s got another book coming out in January 2013, which I look forward to reading.

If you’re lesbian or open minded and interested or involved in the paranormal you’ll love Sometime Yesterday. It’s a good read and is available to buy on Amazon.

Write soon,

Antony



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