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The Power of the Subconscious Mind

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The power of the subconscious mind should never be underestimated. The subconscious mind is responsible for automatic responses to stimuli including: physiological states/changes, storing & processing of experiences/memories, prompting thoughts into the conscious mind, determining emotional responses and morals/beliefs. The subconscious mind can influence our behaviour without our conscious mind being aware of it.

Some good examples of the subconscious mind in action are any behaviour that we do without consciously thinking about it (such as breathing or holding your breath, your heart beating, walking, body language) and learned behaviours (such as navigating a route, riding a bike, driving a car).

The role of your subconscious mind is to keep you safe and to make life a little easier for you. But unlike your conscious mind it isn’t driven by thoughts and logic, instead it is driven by emotions and intuition.

Think of the two parts of your mind as being like an iceberg. Your conscious mind being above the water level, whereas your subconscious mind is the much larger part of the iceberg hidden below the water.

If your subconscious mind is troubled or disturbed, you are likely to experience some of the following symptoms:

  • Difficulty sleeping – you may struggle getting to sleep or staying a sleep. You might have disturbing dreams or even night terrors. Waking up more tired than when you went to bed.
  • A lack of energy – including feeling exhausted. This in turn will impact on your motivation levels, as energy and motivation are intricately linked.
  • Muscle tension – throughout your body. You may experience unexplained aches and pains.
  • Difficulty relaxing and a lack of enjoyment in activities you used to find pleasurable.
  • Increased anxiety levels – along with all the symptoms that anxiety brings with it.
  • A reduced ability to concentrate, including difficulties in making both small and large decisions.
  • Feeling overwhelmed.
  • Becoming easily irritated or annoyed.

So how do you heal a troubled or disturbed mind? It’s a difficult one. It’s not easy. It takes work.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t operate the way your conscious mind does. Your conscious mind is made up of thoughts. You can reason and use logic with it.

Your subconscious mind on the other hand, it communicates in emotions, symbolism in dreams and random and often irrational thoughts. But there are things you can do to help your subconscious mind heal from being troubled, disturbed or traumatised. They include:

  1. Create a safe and positive environment – Your subconscious mind craves safety and a sense of security. So having an environment where you feel safe and positive is essential.
  2. Explore your emotions, lean into all of them and fully experience them. No more suppressing or ignoring hoe you feel. Process your emotions logically and thank your subconscious for sharing information through emotions.
  3. Pay close attention to you conscious thoughts. Look out for rumination, a critical inner voice and repetitive thoughts of self-doubt.
  4. Keep a journal. Express your thoughts and feelings on paper (or computer). Doing this allows your brain to properly process, rather than pushing thoughts and feelings down into the subconscious.
  5. Meditate. Meditation builds self-awareness and quietens your mind so you can better hear the messages from your subconscious.
  6. Practice self-care. Try to eat well, take regular exercise and have a good sleep routine. These actions not only help you physically but are an important signals to your subconscious. By practising self-care you are giving/repeating a message to your subconscious: That you matter enough to be kept safe and taken care of.
  7. Create new experiences – Focus on activities that bring you pleasure, enjoyment and happiness.
  8. Stop harmful behaviours – If you use alcohol, substances, disordered eating, excessive work or other behaviours that you are harming you whether that be physically, mentally or emotionally try to stop these. You may need professional help and it may take time. But do it. It is worth it, I promise.
  9. Evaluate your relationships. Make sure all your relationships are healthy and not in anyway abusive or neglectful. If you are in a toxic relationship, run, get out. You deserve to have relationships that are healthy, loving, kind and respectful.
  10. Get professional support. Get counselling or other talking therapies. The process of counselling (or other talking therapies) can help you to identify how you can change your life to make you healthier and happier. I will warn you that counselling or other talking therapies require active participation, reflection and a desire to deal with problems and make changes.
  11. Check in with how you are feeling regularly. Set a time each day to check in with how you feel. Try to choose a time when you are not busy – like first thing in the morning, lunchtime or before bed.
  12. Deal with any past traumatic experiences – This may include acknowledging what trauma you’ve experienced, dealing with difficult emotions and learning to forgive and let go.

Before I finish, I will say just one more thing: That healing the subconscious takes time. Don’t expect instant results. Just keep working on it and keep focused. Always ask yourself: Will my thinking/behaviour lead to a happier and healthier me? If the answer isn’t an instant yes, then change your thoughts or behaviour until the answer is a distinctive and strong YES!

Write soon,

Antony

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Book Review: Into The Flames by Mel Bossa

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The kind people at Publishers Group UK sent me a copy of Into the Flames by Mel Bossa to read and review on my blog. It’s written in the perspectives of the three main characters: Jamie, Dance and Neil.

Jamie or Dr. Jamie Scarborough to his patients is a psychiatrist. But poor Jamie suffers with his own mental health – he has severe anxiety (which at times lead to panic attacks) with a bit of OCD thrown in. He’s recently split up from bisexual Basil his partner of five years, leaving behind Basil’s sisters twin children Mallory and Marshall.

Dance is an eccentric, loveable and very intelligent compulsive liar. He’s homeless and the only family he has is a twin brother Seth whose desperate to become a woman named September. September however has an eating disorder so can’t get the psychiatric pass to allow the surgery.

Neil is a fire fighter who has been suspended due to putting his colleagues life at risk. Neil is a loner with his only family being an old dog that has to be put down by the vet. Neil’s poor mental health worsens after this trauma, making him unstable, neurotic and a very sinister person later in the book.

Jamie, Dance and Neil all have mental health issues in this story, the root cause of which is childhood trauma. This heavy subject matter made Into the Flames difficult to read at times, but what encouraged me to read on was the genuine care and compassion that I felt for the characters.

The story was slow to get going and initially focused on the characters issues rather than the characters and their development. I’m not sure if this was deliberate from Bossa, wanting the reader to care about the main characters to the point of us wanting to rescue them. Bossa also took her time in building the links and associations between the different characters which also encourages the reader to read on.

Towards the end of the book tension builds and you become hooked. Neil starts to have a neurotic breakdown becoming dangerous and Dance disappears. Will Neil harm anyone? If he does will it be physical or psychological torture or both? Where has Dance gone? Will he be OK?

Bossa uses the twin connection cleverly throughout the book and for more than one of the main characters. The story concludes traumatically but leaving the reader with a sense that everything will be OK in the end. I did feel sorry for Matt (one of the minor characters) who I felt was a loose string that could have been tied up at the end.

Overall the story is well written with the use of the characters perspectives being pleasing; it is obvious that Bossa has a lot passion for writing queer literature. Into the Flames is available to buy on Amazon.

Write soon,

Antony



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