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Safer Places to Live for Gay Men

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A couple of months ago I wrote a blog post about Unsafe Places to be a Gay Man. But not all places in world are unsafe for gay men.

Some places in the world are not only safe for gay men, but places where they can be who they are, love who they love, thrive and live a happy life.

So to give balance to my previous blog post, let’s explore some of the safer places to live for gay men.

To be a safe place for gay men to live places require:

  1. Be an environment where gay men feel safe from harm or abuse. Where gay men aren’t shrinking/hiding who they are for fear of rejection (or worse fearing conflict) because of who they are.
  2. Cultural acceptance of gay men.
  3. Cultural celebration of the diversity that gay men bring.
  4. Anti-discriminatory laws that include protections specifically for gay men or those of minority sexualities.
  5. Equality laws that ensure gay men are treated equally and fairly in all areas of their life. This should include the right to marry a person of the same gender. This should also include the right to start a family through the adoption of children, if individual gay men or gay couples want to do this.
  6. Laws that protect gay men from homophobia and hate crimes.
  7. Inclusivity as a key value in all institutions, companies and other organisations.
  8. Representation of gay men in all walks of life, including media, politics and TV shows. Representation should feel validating for the gay men, who at one time, may have known a time where they felt invisible in their communities.
  9. Providers of services recognising the challenges that some gay men can face. Such as internalised homophobia, having a higher risks associated with sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and higher risk of mental illnesses.
  10. Providers of service being aware of understanding how historic attitudes and discrimination towards gay men may have impacted them as individuals.
  11. Monitor the life outcomes and progress of gay men to identify any existing inequality and take steps to address any inequalities.

Let’s explore some of these places together:

Country (A to Z) & Overall OpinionReasons Why it is a Good Place to Live for Gay Men
Argentina

Overall Opinion:
An okay place for a gay man to live.
Attitudes are said to positive towards gay men. Good equality laws (same-sex marriage) and laws against discrimination.

There has been a slight increase in recorded hate crimes in the past few years.
Austria

Overall Opinion:
An okay place for a gay man to live.
Attitudes are said to progressive and supportive towards gay men. Good equality laws (same-sex marriage and adoption rights) and laws against discrimination.

However employment discrimination is still an issue, as is acceptance in some families and hate crime reporting is low.
Australia

Overall Opinion:
An good place for a gay man to live.
In the cities there are high levels of acceptance of gay men. Good equality laws (same-sex marriage) and laws against discrimination.

However gay men may still face some stigma or indirect discrimination accessing healthcare services.
Belgium

Overall Opinion:
An excellent place for a gay man to live.
Considered one of the most accepting and friendly countries in the world for gay men. The general population have a high level of support for gay rights. At the time of writing this article has an openly gay Prime Minister and other politicians that are out.

Cities are generally more accepting and friendly towards gay men than in rural areas, but this is pretty standard across the world.

Good equality laws (same-sex marriage and adoption rights) and laws against discrimination.
Canada

Overall Opinion:
A poor place for a gay man to live.
Historically, Canada has been a great place for gay men to live. Accepting, supportive of equal rights. Well established gay communities. Good equality laws (same-sex marriage and adoption rights) and laws against discrimination.

However recently, there has been a decline in support for gay men being seen (visability) and an increase in hate crimes targeted at gay men.
Finland

Overall Opinion:
An okay place for a gay man to live.
A good place for a gay man to live. High acceptance among the general population. ood equality laws (same-sex marriage and adoption rights).

Finland does have its issues when it comes to gay men. Many hide their sexuality at work and it’s anti-discrimination laws aren’t as strong as they could be.
France

Overall Opinion:
An okay place for a gay man to live.
France is considered to be very accepting, supportive and even celebratory towards homosexuality (and therefore gay men). Historically, France decriminalized homosexuality in 1791, far earlier than many other places around the world.

France has good equality laws (same-sex marriage) and strong laws against discrimination.

However there are still reports of hate crimes against gay men, including violent ones and some young people who come out as gay to their families still face rejection and homelessness.
Germany

Overall Opinion:
A poor place for a gay man to live. Except if the gay man lives in Berlin, where it would be considered a good place to live.
Germany is a bit of a mixed bag for gay men. If you live in the capital, Berlin, there is an extremely high level of acceptance and a thriving gay community.

However attitudes are not the same throughout Germany and vary massively region to region.

Germany does have good equality laws (same-sex marriage & adoption rights) and some laws against discrimination. Germany could improve the living conditions for gay men by bringing stronger legal protection against discrimination, particularly from public institutions.
Greece

Overall Opinion:
An poor place for a gay man to live.
There was more acceptance of gay men in ancient Greece, than there is today. Attitudes towards gay men, are at best, described as mixed. There are a number of complex reasons why this is the case, but one of them is the strong presence of the Orthodox Christian religion.

Greece does have good equality laws (same-sex marriage & adoption rights), as well as laws against discrimination.

In Greece, it would be safest to be a gay man in a large city and one with a generally younger population. Homosexuality was decriminalised in 1951 and their hate crime legislation is considered very strong.
Iceland

Overall Opinion:
A good place for a gay man to live.
Iceland is known for being very liberal and accepting of gay men. It has even had a previous Prime Minister who was an out gay man.

Iceland more than just accepting of gay men, it actively celebrates them. Gay men as fully visible in this society and even public displays of affection among gay couples is widely accepted.

Legislation wise, good equality laws (same sex marriage & adoption rights) with conversion therapy being banned in 2023.

The only slight concern I found about Iceland was: That some gay men choose to hide their sexuality at work, for fear of losing their job.
Ireland

Overall Opinion:
A poor place for a gay man to live.
Ireland has come along way in its attitudes and treatment of gay men. Ireland was once highly religious, gay men faced very open stigma and discrimination, both from individuals within communities and institutions.

But Government surveys have found an ever increasing number of the general population have a positive and accepting attitude towards gay men.

Ireland has good equality laws (same sex marriage) and anti-discrimination laws.

However it still has some work to do around attitudes and culture of acceptance, before it would be on my personal list of safe places for a gay man to live.
Italy

Overall Opinion:
A very poor place for a gay man to live.
Italy is described as being ‘mixed’ in its attitudes towards gay men.

Gay men do have some good laws (civil unions are allowed between same gendered partners) and discrimination laws don’t allow discrimination in employment settings. But anti-discrimination laws are described a relatively weak, when compared with neighbouring countries.

The current Government’s view on gay men, the fact that a high percentage of the population are Roman Catholic (Christianity) are thought to both be reasons why Italy wouldn’t be a great place for a gay man to life. Interestingly though, it is considered safe for gay men to visit.
Malta

Overall Opinion:
A poor place for a gay man to live.
Malta’s acceptance of gay men is okay, but many gay men feel the need to hide their sexuality in the workplace for fear of discrimination. This is despite anti-discrimination laws being in place.

There is good legislation that legalises gay marriage, adoption and it has banned conversion therapy.
Netherlands

Overall Opinion:
A very poor place for a gay man to live.
The Netherlands is generally accepting of gay men, however there have been reports of changes in attitudes towards gay men, worryingly from young adults.

It does have anti-discrimination laws that include homosexuality. It does have same sex marriage and adoption rights.

But there is a lack of legislation relating to hate crimes and hate speech. There has also been an increase in reported violence towards gay men.
New Zealand

Overall Opinion:
A good place for a gay man to live.
New Zealand is not only accepting of gay men, but celebrates them at Pride events in most cities.

The Government collects data on the number of people who identify as gay men and other sexualities. This data shows a lower percentage than I would have expected, indicating that some people may not be comfortable coming out (at least to the Government).

Some data suggests that gay men earn less than straight men, however it is difficult to establish from the limited data available if this is likely to be because of their sexuality or not. There could be other reasons why this is so.

In terms of visibility, Gay men are visible in society. This includes in positions of power, in such roles as Politicians.

Legislation wise, gay marriage is allowed.
Norway

Overall Opinion:
A extremely good place for a gay man to live.
Norway is said to be very accepting and celebratory towards gay men. Pride exists in some cities in Norway.

It should be noted here, that it was one of only a few countries on this list that allows out gay men to serve in its Armed Forces.

Norway is apparently often referred to as one of the most friendly nations towards gay men in the world.

One of the proposed reasons for Norway’s positive attitudes and treatment of gay men is said to be because the people of Norway lack a strong religious influence on them.

It has anti-discrimination laws to protect gay men, the country allows both gay marriage and adoption. Conversion therapy is legally banned.
Portugal

Overall Opinion:
A extremely good place for a gay man to live.

The people of Portugal value equality and this benefits gay men. Gay men are mostly accepted and in cities even have particular neighbourhoods and communities that gay men would feel at home and safe in. Some cities have Pride festivals/events.

It should be noted here, that it was one of only a few countries on this list that allows out gay men to serve in its Armed Forces.

It has anti-discrimination laws that protect gay men, including around employment and housing. Portugal legally allows same sex marriage and adoption. Hate crimes are punished under the law. Conversion therapy is also banned legally and widely condemned.

Portugal was once heavily Roman Catholic (Christianity) which did mean that historically out gay men were not always treated well.

I was unable to find information about the visibility of gay men in society, including in positions in power. That is not to say that gay men are not visible in Portugal, just in my research for this blog post, I wasn’t able to find any reliable information that gave an indication either way.
Spain

Overall Opinion:
A good place for a gay man to live.
Spain is said to be accepting of gay men, celebrates them and the diversity they bring through Pride events in the cities. The population of rural areas and older population of Spain are said to be less accepting of gay men, than the general population.

Anti-discrimination laws exist to protect gay men. Same sex marriage and adoption are both legalised. It is another one of only a few countries on this list that allowed out gay men to serve in its Armed Forces.

However, there are reports of gay men being harassed and discriminated against by some institutions, sadly including the Police.

It is worth being aware that Spain’s main religion is Roman Catholicism (Christianity), however the number of people practicing this religion and adhering to its strict anti-gay men beliefs has significantly declined in recent decades.
Switzerland

Overall Opinion:
A very good place for a gay man to live.
Switzerland’s people are generally accepting of gay men, but more so in the cities than rural places. Episodes of violence towards gay men are said to be exceptionally rare.

Laws protect gay men against discrimination, allow same sex marriage and adoption. Out gay men to serve in its Armed Forces.

In Switzerland, they have gay civil rights organisations and several religious groups have expressed their support for equal rights for gay men.

However the country is still to have an specific legal protections for gay men in the work environment, possibly instead relying on the general population’s positive and supportive attitudes towards gay men. Switzerland has not yet banned conversion therapy legally.

No information could be found related to visibility of gay men or how insitutitions and companies treat gay men. This should not be taken as gay men are treated positively or negatively by these organisations, just that no information could be found regarding these during research for this blog post.
UK

Overall Opinion:
A very good place for a gay man to live.
The UK’s population is generally very accepting of gay men. In cities, the diversity gay men bring to society is celebrated through Pride events.

The UK has civil rights organisations such as Stonewall. It also has specific charities that support gay men.

The UK laws allows same sex marriage and adoption. There are legal protections for gay men from discrimination because of their sexuality in all settings. Out gay men to serve in its Armed Forces.

The UK is sadly yet to legally ban conversion therapy or make the practice a crime.

The Government collects data around the number of gay men as a percentage of the population, although this number was lower than expected. This indicates that some gay men may still be reluctant to tell the Government of their sexuality. Government data also suggests an increased risk of gay men experiencing mental illness and having poorer health outcomes than their straight counterparts.

The has been an increase of reported hate crimes against gay men in recent years. Although it is impossible to tell whether this is due to an increase in reporting, which would indicate an increase in trust in the Police (historically homophobic) by gay men or as a result of increased hate crimes occurring.

Gay men are visible in all walks of life, including media, politics and TV shows. However gay men are significantly under represented in some walks of life, such as professional sports. You can learn more about specific visible gay men in my article Influential UK Gay Men available here.

A really good online resource is: Rainbow Map. It lets you see visually the safest and best places for LGBT people to live, which includes gay men.

Please note that the table above has been completed with research online. I have tried to make it as accurate as possible, but there could possibly be errors. I have not visited a lot of these countries and can’t confirm firsthand the information provided in the table.

If you’ve spotted an error in the information provided in the table, please leave a comment below to let me and others know. That way, any gay man who comes across this article, looking for a safer and better place to live has as much accurate information as possible. Thank you. If you enjoyed this blog post, you might enjoy my Influential UK Gay Men article which is available as a free download here.

Write soon,

Antony

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Zack Polanski, The New Leader of The Green Party Is Someone I Would Like Add To My Influential Gay Men Article

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Image From & Copyright © The Green Party UK.

In Early 2025, I released an article titled Influential UK Gay Men, which you can download for free as a PDF document here.

In the article, I listed all the UK gay men that I thought were influential, by profession, including Politicians.

I spent many hours researching and writing my Influential UK Gay Men article. I was really happy with it.

I concluded the article by writing that I didn’t think we’d get a Prime Minister that identifies as a gay man in my lifetime.

Well, my conclusion might have been wrong.

Indeed, I am starting hope that I was completely wrong about that.

Back in March 2025, when I researched, wrote and published my Influential UK Gay Men article, I had never heard of  Zack Polanski, who is the new leader of The Green Party UK and happens to be a gay man.

Zack has seemingly appeared from nowhere to become the leader of the party and is already making a massive impact on the political world here in the UK.

Zack has expanded The Green Party UK‘s agenda to include the things that ordinary people are worried about such as the ongoing cost of living crisis, the dire state of our public services (schools, NHS, social care, local authorities, Police, etc.), the problems with our sold-off utilities (with Zack advocating for bringing them back into public ownership) and uncontrolled immigration.

What really appeals to me about Zack, from the information I read and the interviews I’ve seen, is that unlike most other politicians, he actually answers questions asked. In a straight-forward manner, displaying honesty, integrity and with an opinion backed by data.

Zack’s approach to talking politics and leaning into his values is something very rarely seen in UK politics today. I think it’s both an amazing and fresh approach that is desperately needed in UK politics. Using this approach Zack comes across as being his authentic self. Zack displays great confidence and charisma in the interviews I’ve seen and is never flummoxed by any question asked. He never fluffs an answer or avoids answering the question. Zack doesn’t use interviews as an opportunity to parrot a pre-prepared speech.

My Influential UK Gay Men Article
I have a rule about my creative works: Once they are done, they are done. I never go back and edit or change them once they’re released/published. I feel that if I started editing my work, it would be a never ending task. That I’d never have the time to create new work. It would become a quest for perfection. All creative people will know that perfection is impossible and unachievable.

But if I were writing my Influential UK Gay Men article now, Zack Polanski would definitely be included among the influential gay men. I’d also remove my conclusion that there will never be a Prime Minister (PM) that identifies as gay in my lifetime. As from what I’ve seen so far, I really think Zack Polanski could become our next PM.

But who exactly is Zack Polanski and what’s his story?
I decided to do a little research and this is what I found:

Zack Polanski, was born in Salford (North West England) in 1982 (making him 42 years old at the time of writing this article). His name at birth was David Paulden. His parents are Jewish and actually chose to change their family’s surname. They did this to avoid being identified as Jewish and potentially discriminated against. Zack’s parents divorced when he was a young child.

Zack’s education years were generally unremarkable, he attended both private and public schools at different points in his life.

At 18 years old, Zack changed his name. It is reported that he felt that he didn’t want to hide his Jewish roots and wanted to find a sense of pride in this part of his identity.

In Zack’s working life, he has previously been involved with theatre and the arts. Zack has previously also worked as a Hypnotherapist, which caused him some controversy when The Sun sent an undercover reporter for a session with him.

In Zack’s political life, he started off associated with The Liberal Democrats, before becoming involved in The Green Party. In The Green Party he has held a number of different roles, but most recently and most notably he was the Deputy Leader of the party in the years 2022-2025. This leadership role no doubt gave him the experience and skills that he is now using to lead the party.

Zack is an openly out gay man, who is in a relationship with a man. He currently resides in London, UK.

What to Know More? Check out these links.
His website: www.zackpolanski.com
The Green Party UK – Our People: www.greenparty.org.uk/about/people/

Hope
In a world that is ever increasingly on the right side of the political spectrum, it is great to see a political party that is proudly left wing. That has values and wants to make every person’s life better, not just the ultra wealthy.

This can be evidenced in The Green Party UK‘s desire to implement a 1% wealth tax on the ultra wealthy. I personally think a 1% wealth tax, for ultra wealthy people, is far too low and should start at 5% at the minimum.

What are you thoughts on Zack Polanski and The Green Party? Feel free to let me know by getting in touch or leaving a comment on this post.

Write soon,

Antony

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The Dangers of Emotional Support from an AI (Artificial Intelligence) App

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I’ve recently seen an advert on social media for an AI that provides emotional support on demand 24/7. It appeared to target vulnerable people, which I find highly unethical.

Here are some of the dangers of these sort of services:

No Empathy
Machines can’t empathise with you. They may read like they can, from how the structure their responses, but it is false.

Empathy is defined as:

the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

This leads to a perceived connection, which eventually you will realise is a false connection. You will be left feeling hurt and deeply disappointed.

False Connection
In the early stages of this false connection, you will likely disconnect from real people. This is deeply emotionally and mentally unhealthy.

Emotional Dependence
Emotional dependence and the decreased emotional resilience that follows will not be good for you if you use one of these apps. Having an app that is available 24/7 that claims to be emotionally available to you, appears to be so, will lead to you becoming emotionally dependent on it. Being emotionally dependant on any person or thing isn’t healthy.

Bad Advice
AI has been known to give incorrect information and bad advice. At worst, this advice could be extremely harmful.

Can Reinforce negative thoughts, feelings or behaviours
AI apps will repeat back to you what you’ve just said. This is to check understanding, but in these emotional support apps is also to validate what you’ve typed. This repetition can reinforce negative thoughts, feelings or behaviours.

This is especially important as part of the role of a good therapist is to challenge negative thoughts, feelings or behaviours.

No Safeguarding
Should you go into crisis and become suicidal, the app won’t take actions to keep you safe.

A role of any therapist is to safeguard you and others from harm.

Lack of Emotional Growth
AI won’t be able to help you grow emotionally. But a therapist may make suggestions that help people to grow emotionally.

Data Privacy Breeches
Your data maybe hacked or not kept safe and secure.

Blog soon,

Antony

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The Brit Digital ID Card – Creating A Dystopian UK

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According to the mainstream media, the Brit Digital ID Card is coming. See today’s articles in: The Guardian & The BBC. The talk is that they are going to be compulsory for anyone who wants to work, meaning the majority of the working age population.

The UK Government (or those really in power) have wanted an ID card system since the days when Tony Blair was Prime Minister. The only difference between now and then is the addition on the the word ‘Digital’ which represents how much more connected and capable technology now is. Connected via the Internet.

Capable in terms of being able to automatically monitor the activity of a population and flag anything suspicious or that doesn’t attune to the desires of those who have power in the UK.

The UK population didn’t want a ID Card when it was first suggested decades ago and we certainly don’t want a Digital ID Card now.

I recently blogged about The Data (Use and Access) Act 2025, detailing my concerns and ways it could go horribly wrong. But it passed through into law without seemingly any objection. Looking back now, I think The Data (Use and Access Act) 2025 was a fundamental change to the law to allow for the introduction of Brit Digital ID Cards and for the data that they hold to be expanded on and used more over time.

In the UK it seems we are well on our way to creating a Dystopian society. And I don’t like it. Not at all.

A dystopian society is one that is deeply unjust, where the general population are controlled and manipulated by those in power (usually through abuse of power). Hallmarks of a dystopian society include: constant surveillance and monitoring of the general population, a complete loss of freedom of opinions and choices for individuals and dehumanising/alienation of those that speak up against corruption and abuse of power.

Now this sounds like a story of fiction doesn’t it? But just imagine the UK adopted just half of these dystopian society characteristics in the future. Imagine being monitored by AI, 24/7. Not just were you go and what you do but everything: What you buy, who you spend time with the content of intimate and private conversations.

Just imagine not being able to stand up and call out injustice and unfair treatment out of fear of loosing everything: your home, access to your money (including food, fuel, heat, etc.), your job, communication/contact with loved ones and even things like health and education services.

There really are no limits as to what could happen if a UK Digital Brit Card is introduced.

If we look at the past, we know that those who get power (whether that be financial, political, militaristic, legal, etc.) tend to abuse it. This will be no different. It will be too tempting to use the Brit Digital ID Card to enforce compliance and control the narrative.

It’s fundamentally about trust. Do the UK population trust those in power to be fair and just in using this system? How could we possibly trust those in power, when everyday there are more reports of abusive of the power that they already have. Think about tax avoidance. Think about big companies that have raided their employees pension pots. Think about the number of corruption cases we see everyday.

Both the UK’s past and current circumstances (such as The Cost of Living Crisis) have been driven by the greed of those in power. Always wanting more: More money. More power. More influence. It’s like a never-ending hunger. Like an unquenchable thirst.

We’ve all played the board game Monopoly and know how it ends: The rich becoming super rich and owning everything, whilst the middle-class and poor own nothing. Greater financial inequality. More poverty. More misery middle-class, working-class and poor. Part of this isn’t just a UK problem, but a global one.

But our UK Politician’s can make Britain a better place. They could tackle tax avoidance by the super rich, break up monopolies, make the public sector strong, make society feel fairer and more just.

But they don’t. Instead they continue to offer manifestos that they throw out the window the minute they get into power. They are dishonest with the public and often outright lie. They don’t listen to the people they are supposed to represent. They don’t listen to the experts who try and advise them on ill-informed policy decisions. They don’t seem to have any bit of integrity or good values.

Of course not all Politicians are bad. Some have good intentions, but these intentions are drowned by a bureaucratic system that is run by the super rich for the super rich.

But I’m not without hope. I’ve recently joined Your Party, a UK political party set up by Jeremy Corbyn and others who want to change society for the better. Whilst their members are still in discussions around policies and the direction of the party, I hope will all of my heart that this will be a place where I can claim I am politically home.

Take Care,

Antony

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