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Chippy Tea

By Gay, Life, ThinkingOne Comment

I headed to a local chippy tonight in search of tea. I had previously tried this chippy once and found the owner friendly and the food good (hence why it has become my new faviourate place to get chippy tea!).

I was walking towards the entrance were a tall, slim guy stood smoking. He had spider long legs and long blonde hair held back with a hair band. He was wearing light blue jeans, a camp blue vest and prada sun glasses covered his eyes.

He entered the chippy before I did and continued a conversation with the owner and his rough-looking friend. As he spoke I noticed that he had a London accent. He talked with the owner about fashion and music. His friend (the rough-looking one) asked the owner for his last name. I managed to gather that the owner had lived and had family in London. The rough-looking guy asked to borrow camp guy’s phone in order to call someone down in London to see if they knew of the chip shop owner.

I overheard camp guy saying to the chip shop owner “We are going to be followed by Living TV. It should be on in June.”.

I was smiling, happily enjoying listening to the conversation. Nice to see such a camp guy in the hetrosexual world we live in (particularly in the homophobic area I currently live in). Another of his friends came in (again rough-looking) stated that he had been ID-ed in the shop. I couldn’t help myself and became involved in the conversation saying: “You should take it as a complement, I do. I don’t get asked anymore”
To which the camp guy replied:
“Tell me about it….you get past 20 and then you never get ID-ed.”

Their food was nearly ready and mine was on it’s way. I observed that this camp guy had such confidence in his aura and charisma in his personality, almost like a celebrity. The rough-looking guy confirmed to the owner that the person on the other end of the phone knew his family.

They took their food. Camp guy looked over to the owner and said “see you later”. He made eye contact with me (or I assume he did – because I couldn’t see his eyes with his sun glasses on), touched my arm briefly and repeated the same sentance again. I replied: “Yeah, see ya.”

Once they had left (camp guy and the two rough-looking friends) I quized the owner about them. Apparently they are a band, perhaps a tribute band (not that they looked like any band I had ever seen). He said that their manager is up here and that one of the members of the band is from up here.

So there we go, what an odd experience eh?

Driving home afterwards thinking about what I had just experienced. I was impressed by his confidence and charisma (something maybe I’ve lost? But maybe will get back after I’ve moved?). His confidence to be himself in such an oppressive area and to hold his own in conversation knowledgeable and experienced on a variety of topics (or at least that’s the impression he gave).

So even though I don’t have living TV, I must check the website in June to see if it’s for real!

Write soon (probably after the up-coming move!),

Antony

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Tuesday 21 April 2009

What do you think?

By Amazon, Gay, Rants, The Web, TV, Online Streaming & FilmsNo Comments

Hi All,

What do you think of this?

Click here to display content from c.brightcove.com.

Open content directly

(from http://www.pinknews.co.uk/news/articles/2005-11985.html, 13th April 09).

I am not sure what to think to be honest. I think someone on the American verison of the site obiously needs some education around homophobia and how to catergorise items.

Just because a book has a gay author or has gay characters it does not mean that it is x-rated material.

And for god sake amazon, give out clear responses in relation to this!

Write randomly soon,

Antony

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Monday 13 April 2009

Time to get myself a Faghag?

By Friends & Family, GayNo Comments

Out of know were, whilst I am consentrating on the computer screen someone asks: “Antony, do you have a faghag?”
“No”
“Can I be yours?”
“Well…you’ll have to apply and I am expecting many applicants.” I answer.
“Ok.”

This was how the conversation played out that made me decide it was about time that some of my friends were recognised with Faghag status. So what is a faghag?

Faghag – A close female friend to a gay man. A huge complement to be called such as close friend with both parties feeling safe as the boundaries of the non sexual relationship are clear. Both the gay and the faghag are simliar in personality, have simliar interests and are ‘there’ to support their friend when they are needed.
(Definition by Antony Simpson Copyright, 2009)

So to find out which of my friends meet this definition above I have developed this questionnaire:

1. How did you befriend me?

2. What common interests do we have (such as music, films, sitcoms, food, etc.)

3. Which of the following have we done together? (tick all relevent)

  • Gone on an adventure together?
  • Watched TV boxsets together (such as Alley McBeal or Will & Grace)
  • Gone to the theatre
  • Gone to the cinemas together and or watched chick flicks
  • Borrowed each other books
  • Had meals together
  • Had drinks (alcoholic) together
  • Told each other secrets
  • Gone to ‘cultural’ places – such as castles, art galleries, etc.

    • 4. Which of the following statements would you use to describe yourself? (Choose one)
    a) People watcher, fun and contemplator
    b) Attention-seeker, hard worker and sleeper
    c) Sensitive, caring and grumpy in the mornings
    d) Creative, Talker and entertainer

    5. How would you describe your fashion sense? (choose one)
    a) Emo / Goth
    b) Quarky
    c) Smart / Casual
    d) Sports Wear

    6. Would you want to ‘mother’ a gay?
    Yes
    No

    7. Support for your gay friend and his support for you should be? (choose one)
    a) 50% – 50%
    b) 40% – 60%
    c) 100% – 0%

    Submit this questionnaire on Antony’s blog Time to get myself a faghag – comments section or post on my facebook.

    Write Soon,

    Antony

    A note to the politically correct people of the world…
    I would like to address those politically correct people that there seem to be more of these days. The historic meaning of ‘faghag’ it was mean’t as an insult, fag refering to faggot and hag meaning an ugly woman. However I grew up in a culture were being called a ‘faghag’ was a huge complement. So please see the definition of ‘faghag’ above and read the whole article before emailing me. Thanks.

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    Sunday 1 March 2009

    The blood debate continues

    By Gay, Health, Thinking3 Comments

    I recently read this Pink News article entitled “Government defends ban on gay men giving blood”.

    Ms Primarolo, the Minister of State for Public Health, said:

    “Current policy excludes men who have ever had sex with men, whatever their sexual orientation, from blood donation.

    “The United Kingdom adopts a highly precautionary approach to blood safety.

    “The guiding principle is that if the best available evidence shows that there are reasonable grounds to believe that a course of action will improve the safety of the blood, this action should be taken.

    “The Department is committed to regularly reviewing this evidence, and has asked its expert advisory committee on the Safety of Blood, Tissues and Organs to do this in 2009.”
    (from: Pink News Last accessed: 12th February 09)

    So let’s look at the debate For & Against

    For

  • The National Blood Service (NBS) test the blood for HIV and other infections anyway.
  • There have been massive HIV education and safe sex initiatives nationally aimed at the gay community generally as well as specific ones aimed at men who have sex with men. (This is easily visable if you walk in to any gay bar – all will have condoms.)
  • The evidence base that the National Blood Service (NBS) use to justify the ban is out of date. (If you email them – they will send you the related evidence.) In addition to this you can use evidence base to prove almost anything by selecting the evidence that demonstrates what you wish it too.
  • Recently HIV rates have increased and continue to do so in hetrosexuals (see Hetrosexual HIV Cases Show An Increase). Despite this they have not banned Hetrosexuals. This point justifies my next:
  • Hetrosexuals can be as sexually risky as men whom have sex with men.
  • Why a life time ban? What if you are a man that’s had sex with a man but had a HIV (and other STI’s tests) that have all come back negative. These men are still unable to give blood, even though they have been screened as negative (and may not have had sex since).
  • Equality. The Goods and Services Legislation (2007) state that people should not be excluded from services because of their sexual orintation. The NBS is a service and is excluding men that have sex with men (of which a large proporation identify as gay or bisexual) because of the very fact of their sexual orintation.
  • The final reason relates to the fact that there is a storage of blood donors and blood. The NBS is excluding a whole community of people when there is a shortage of both donors and blood. This doesn’t make sense to me. I mean they test the blood (and/or it’s components) anyway.

    • Against

  • The safety of the blood. Men who have sex with men are at a higher risk of HIV infection.
  • Men who have sex with men are a minority group. A much smaller community than the mainstream community. Therefore the HIV transmittion is likely to spread through a smaller community quicker as men are more likely to come in to contact with a HIV positive person.

    • Thinking about it I think the NBS are hiding behind the “safety of the blood” statement. They refuse to recognise that as men who have sex with men are a smaller group and as such their rates of HIV transmittion are always going to be higher than that of a much larger community.

    Interesting linka:
    Facts missing in HIV-blood debate
    NBS – Position Statement
    PETER TATCHELL says the ban on gay blood donors is based on homophobic myths that stereotype and demonise gay men.
    NUS – LGBT Donation not discrimination
    My Telegraph – Mike Rouse

    The last link My Telegraph – Mike Rouse, relates to a online petition to the Prime Ministers No. 10 site that I signed (see No. 10 Petitions). A total of 5,234 signatures signed the petition at the time. But I think we didn’t have a massive response as many people in the hetrosexual world are totally unaware of this ban.

    This post demonstrates that there aren’t many reasons against why men who have sex with men giving blood, yet there are many reasons for men who have sex with men to give blood.

    Just food for thought,

    Antony

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    Monday 16 February 2009
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