The friendly ex (see An update on Men and Men) – I was honest and made it clear that I just wanted friendship. He was concerned that I might change my mind in a few months. I can understand this, given our history. But as I explained to him, I can only go off how I feel now. I think I can only have all (a relationship) or nothing (no friendship). This is a huge shame as he’s a wonderful guy.

The ex friend with benefits – I was honest after our recent date (see Harry Potter and Weridness), that emotionally I’ve moved on. I think he’ll make a good friend – we just need to keep the boundaries clear. I don’t want us slipping in to the old friends with benefits routine.

Blog soon,

Antony x

1. The date? – He canceled as was unwell. He did sound ill when he rang me to be honest and I didn’t want to particularly catch what ever it was he had. However he’s been quiet on the text. I have even texted him asking him if he would like to rearrange our brunch date. No response. Guess he has lost his bottle or his interest in me or both.

2. The friendly ex – I have had to reinforce my I-just-want-friendship feelings to him recently. He is going a way on Hols soon, I hope he has a really good time.

3. David – I guess my recent blog post entitled Control didn’t help in terms of him wanting to talk to me. He’s still not answering my calls. It’s worse than before as he doesn’t just let his phone ring off he actually presses the ignore button after which the automated womans voice says “The user is busy. Please try again later.” Don’t you just hate that?

4. A friend with benefits – A new comer on the man front. He is an old friend who used to be a friend with benefits (I think that clearly explains it?) from well before I met David. I always wanted to date him and perhaps if dating worked out start a proper relationship. But he didn’t. He’s apparently seen my status on Facebook and decided to get in touch. I have arranged a meal with him on a date next week, so I’ll keep you informed.

In other news – I am not at all well. I have not slept well and when I have I have disturbing nightmares, I’m feeling tired all the time, by blood sugars are messed up and I’m sure I’ve got some infection or other. My nose is like a tap and I have a terrible cough, sore throat – basically I’m falling to pieces.

Blog when feeling better,

Antony

I am having several man related issues at the moment (in no particular order):

1. The date? – I call him that with a question mark on the end because we are due to go on our first date on Saturday for brunch. He texted me saying he’s got credit. So I text him back a nice message and no text back all evening. Is there a certain amount of time I should allow for text back? He is lovely though he interests me and makes me laugh loads. However I’m a bit unsure about no text back.

2. The friendly ex – I have named him this as he’s an ex-partner. I want to be friends but he likes me in a more-than-friends way. I have been honest with him about my feelings. What else can I do?

3. David – he still has my stuff, I feel that mum may have been right. She said that I would never hear off him again and have no chance of getting my stuff back. He doesn’t have anything of value – but you know it’s the principle. My stuff = my stuff.

Men can be confusing at times. Any advice welcome on a postcard or better yet comment.

Antony